Saying vs Meaning

Things people say and what they sometimes actually mean, albeit most times unintentionally…

Be strong, be courageous, speak your mind, don’t take crap from anyone…just don’t be this way with me.

Learn to say no and always put your needs first…just don’t be this way with me.

Be all you can be, never stop chasing your dreams…just don’t surpass where I am in my life.

I love and accept you just as you are…just maybe change this or that; just as long as you do things MY way.

Always keep it real no matter what…just as long as what you say or do doesn’t make me uncomfortable.

I’ve always got your back…just as long as someone doesn’t offer me a better deal.

Honor yourself always and pay attention to what you feel…just get over it already and deal with it; life is hard!

Sure you should have others friends that share your interests, I’m not jealous…just as long as when I call for you you come running.

I’m not in competition with you at all, you are my friend…just as long as I don’t see a chance to shine and leave you in the dust!

You are free to do as you please, live your life…just as long as you allow me to control the parts I want to.

There’s no way you can actually make that work…I live my life full of fear, how dare you be brave trying to achieve your goals.

I remember spending so much time seeking approval from various people in my life, yet wondering why it seemed as though I needed to constantly prove myself to have their love. I lost so much of myself at one point, looking in the mirror staring at a stranger. Always trying to please those whose approval I wanted, thought I needed. Always  trying to be the obedient and loyal daughter, employee, girlfriend/wife…

Although I’ve always walked to the beat of my own drum, I craved acceptance from people I loved; at the very least for them to love and accept me same as I felt for them. I realize they all loved me as best as they could. People often don’t realize how their words/actions may adversely affect someone whether intentional or not. Replacing judgement and/or a need to control with mindfulness when connecting with others will go a long way with improving communication within any relationship.

Approval of anyone outside of yourself should never be necessary for your to make your own choices. Honor yourself always by trusting what you feel about a situation/person and make your choice based on this not what someone else may think; no matter who the person is. You are NOT your mother or father, sister or brother… therefore you are not required to make the decisions they would make.

I always hear the term “follow your heart”… it’s usually spoken by people who are successful in their chosen profession, relationships, spiritual, personal self etc. and it used to aggravate me until now…

Now, at this very moment I understand the benefits of following your heart. Your heart is your truest, highest self. It’s the part of you that you’ve pushed away and perhaps buried because of life experienced that were uncomfortable. It’s the part you used to consult before you did anything when you were a child. It’s the part of you that always knows what  and who is best for you. It’s your compass and it’s your guru; the part of you that contains all of the answers you need.

My Dear, the answers you seek, the answers you need are only contained within you, never outside of you. Others can offer tidbits, maybe even a starting point for you but you must go deep within to access the answers that will assist with living the life you were created to live.

Today I don’t rely on what others think or any unsolicited advice they may give unless it resonates with me (which for me means it comes from a higher Source). I don’t wait for approval from anyone before I make a decision about MY life. I don’t allow what people say about me affect who I am. The only person that stands in my way or prevents me from doing anything is me… I am the only challenge I face from time to time; even facing myself is becoming easier each day.

***Cheers to honoring yourself and living the life you know you are meant to live.***

Wishing you all great Love, Peace & Blessings…

SereneNSassySoul

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As I drove in this evening, the sky appeared as tumultuous as I’ve felt today; we’re usually in sync…
It was dark, stormy looking, bright in some areas and difficult to read what may have been stirring in the clouds. At one point the Sun, as powerful as it is looked as if it was being overpowered by the clouds. Some of the clouds had sharp edges and some were super thick as if about to burst open releasing an amount of water we could never prepare ourselves for. Many of the clouds resembled mountains, bluish-white in appearance making me think of and miss home…
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After feeling as if I was riding waves most of this New Day, unsure of what I was processing within, I finally felt at peace as I gazed at the sky. In this instance I understood that I am never alone. The sky often mirrors my grief, my joy, my chaos… During periods of grief, chaos it storms and as the rain and vibrations from the thunder and lightning cleanse the Earth, my heart, my spirit are also cleansed making way for a clear sky…joy.
I’m known as the girl who walks in between the raindrops because when it rains I seldom use an umbrella, instead I welcome beautiful, healing energy of the rain.
Before leaving this morning I felt a pull in my heart center but it was not painful, more like making room for new beginning (makes sense since New Moon cycle has just completed); I wasn’t worried. At some point this afternoon the pulled became uncomfortable and I knew it wasn’t about new beginning, instead I allowed something meaningless to trouble me. It wasn’t until I met with the Sky that I was able to understand, work through it and release the uncomfortable feeling in my heart center. No storm but the rain came just as I began to release the negative energy.
New beginning is NOT synonymous for “easy process” and often something within you mourns the “old” whether good, bad or indifferent. It’s up to you to be mindful of this and keep moving forward as you embrace your new beginning. I don’t know what lies ahead (our Universe still refuses to provide a map to navigate life LoL) but I refuse to just tread water and stay where I am, I refuse to deny myself opportunities to experience and grow, I refuse to settle for a lesser life and best of all… I refuse to give up on ME!
Keep moving forward Beautiful Spirits!
Sending you Love, Peace & Blessings
SereneNSassySoul

Love Rekindled

Writing was becoming tedious and downright undesirable, albeit my first love, our relationship was floundering with no reconciliation in sight. Writing was always therapeutic for me and allowed me to communicate much more efficiently than I’ve ever been able to do verbally. People who could not really relate to me when we spoke, could somehow understand the meaning behind my jumbled verbal communication after reading my words.
Truthfully, I write what my heart and spirit feel at the time which is why long ago I decided against becoming a journalist; the words are not always available and topics cannot be chosen for me.
Somewhere along the way I was convinced that writing should be a “business” for me because I have a way with words (whatever that means). I was desperate to leave the corporate world so I began writing what people claimed to be hot topics. I even learned how to use hash tags (well sort of, oh well) but it was difficult to create content and after a while I pretty much stopped writing all together. Uninspired, suffering from a creative drought, not being true to myself and still not gaining the readership “they” claimed I would if only I would change my content and stop using “fancy words” (what the hell are fancy words?), my relationship with writing seemed to be ending…
Although I’d invested most of my life to the one thing I could always count on, I was ready to give up; why bother no one reads anyway? As always, the Universe had other plans and recently, I’ve been receiving the same message to my question, “What is my purpose and how can I fulfill this purpose?” Write, share yourself, inspire, encourage, support…Do not focus on likes/dislikes, promotional gimmicks or the number of “followers” you gain/lose, just write! The ones who can learn from your words will find them. Just write, write from your heart; use the gift you were given and you will fulfill your purpose. Over and over again the Universe delivered this message to me but until now I could not connect all of the dots.
It was difficult to stay motivated without support, inspiration, feedback (good, bad, indifferent; it’s all important). Now I understand, what matters most is for ME to support my work, never stop searching for inspiration and keep myself motivated. Well writing and I have rekindled our love affair and the blockage in my heart has been scraped away…
It’s never been about anyone else, writing has always been for me; it’s my thing, my very first and truest love. When I write all is right with the world; when I’m done whatever troubles I may have had are released at the end. Writing is my comfort, my therapy, my soul food, my expression, my friend… Giving up our relationship is PREPOSTEROUS but it just seemed easier than trying to figure out what the hell was going on and cheaper than visiting a therapist (LoL).
I share this to say, be true to yourself; don’t deny yourself anything that feels right because it may not fit into what the rest of the world is doing. Denying any part of yourself, ignoring messages of your spirit, your heart will kill you slowly. We are not meant to live lesser lives; we have been created to flourish, use our gifts to create positive ripples in this world and most of all to fulfill our purpose.
As always, Love, Peace & Blessings…
SereneNSassySoul

Gratitude for Seniors-Elders

To the Senior/Elder population that sometimes becomes neglected…
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To Ms Barbara (who may never read this but I want to celebrate her anyway) I am so grateful for your kindness and compassion.
Although I wish she wasn’t still in the workforce, I’m grateful for the opportunity to know and love her. More importantly, as much as she still has going on in her life, she takes time to make sure that I’m ok. Yesterday she stayed around and gave me a jump because my car battery died. In the rain with no questions asked she simply offer to help me and took charge of the situation (no room for me to say no LoL). Once my care was “alive”again she hung around to make sure I was ok to drive off.
Today, as soon as she arrived, she checked in with me to make sure I was ok and that my car was ok. She is amazing and it troubles me that others don’t seem to have much patience with her or do what they can to make her days easier. She’s got me though; I will do anything I can to make sure that SHE is ok.
To all of the Seniors/Elders I spoke with this week, who have complimented me on being kind and patient because many people have not been with them, I appreciate your kind words and it’s always my pleasure to assist you. Please don’t ever allow anyone to treat you less than what you deserve. You are NOT inferior and you are NOT forgotten.
People with little or no patience with Seniors anger me because when they become a Senior you can bet they will expect to be treated with compassion, respect and kindness. Before you make a conscious decision to be rude/impatient with an Elder, perhaps you should think of how you want someone to treat your parents and or grandparents. Perhaps you can try to understand that yes they may be a bit slower mentally and/or physically but that does not mean they are not worthy of your time, your energy.
I will always go to bat for Seniors/Elders even if they are a bit crotchety at times, heck they’ve earned it! Be kind, be gentle, be patient, be helpful because they DESERVE for you to be.
Perhaps my affinity for Senior/Elders is because I grew up without grandparents so it seems I’ve adopted every Senior/Elder. I have tremendous respect for them and a genuine love and concern for them. I don’t get riled up often but when it comes to Seniors/Elders, I’m a fierce protector and caregiver, so know that if I catch you being anything less than honorable with them, I WILL tear you a new one!
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As always, Love, Peace & Blessings…
SereneNSassySoul